Monday, February 15, 2010

Our At Home Valentine's Day Date

My man’s a yankee, bless his heart, so I started the evening with a beefy homemade stew and some oooh sooo sweet southern cornbread….he never had a chance. Hopefully he didn’t want one.

We then moved on to a feel good romantic comedy. At this point I was just wanting the kids in bed and to show off what I had spend a better part of the afternoon working on. At I created a romantic radio station and was anxious to see if I nailed it. I did.

Overall I feel that the date was something that we will definite do again. My husband scored it “a solid 10”. I was thinking of a scoring system that rated the dates between 1 and 5 so I guess this was exceptional. I do feel like the added time to create a romantic station was a nice touch and next time I may look for a few massage tips online. If I’m going to take the time to do something…I like to at least try to do it well.

The cost of the date was low. We already had massage oil and rented a redbox movie (that’s a kiosk where the movies rent for $1 for one night) and I had to cook dinner anyway…so. We didn’t even need the chocolate or something interesting to drink. Although, we may include that next time to mix it up a little.

The best part was the Mr. Wonderful was so into it all. He seemed more than eager to commit to a night a week and do whatever it took to prioritize that. I liked that.
A very good Valentine’s Day indeed…

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Fireplace + massage oil + chocolates + candles + nice music + maybe some bubbly = a good date right?

I think Valentine’s Day is a great day to kick off our “find interesting ways to date your spouse at home” challenge.

Tonight after the kids are tucked in bed I plan to break open the box of assorted chocolates that Mr. Wonderful (that makes me Mrs. Wonderful right?) bought for V-Day and light a few candles. I think we are going to shoot for a massage exchange this evening. I’m thinking….fireplace…(we’re blessed with one in the bedroom, so no surprises for the kids…or us ) chocolate…maybe I can create a romantic Pandora station for the stereo. I wish I had some Champagne…maybe I can come up with something fun to drink. Let’s see…I have the massage oil. It’s not the absorbing kind, but it’ll do.

I think I’m ready. I’ll let you know how we end up rating this date. Off to get some ideas for the radio station…

Monday, February 8, 2010

K. I. S. S. I. N. G.

I read a recent article that talked about the interesting details and benefits of kissing. I’ll be honest…I forget to kiss. Plus, kissing leads to things I don’t always have time for….so over the last several years, we seem to kiss less and less. I have already been thinking that I missed that and wanted to remind myself that kissing was like holding hands, only more fun, and that we should try it more. Of course we kiss goodbye and all that, but I mean something a little more intimate and a little more….deliberate maybe.

Apparently, there are 100 times more nerve endings in your lips than in your fingertips says Krista Bloom, Ph.D., author of The Ultimate Compatibility Quiz. That’s just good to know. The article also confirmed that forty percent of men felt that a long hot bath, I mean kiss would send them to the bedroom with a twinkle in their eye. Cosmo Poll, April 2009

William Cane, the author of The Art of Kissing and a real life kissing coach refers to closing the “A-frame” as an great way to crank up the heat in the room (economical too!) It’s when you close any gaps that remain between your waist and his while embraced in a kiss. Ahhhh, how sweet.

And don’t for a minute think you are the one doing all the work here. According to a study by the University at Albany, men initiate open-mouth, that’s called French people, kissing to transfer libido-boosting testosterone to their partner. So when he’s getting a little more aggressive, it’s not just about his desire – he wants you to be a bit more amorous too. See ladies, he’s just thinking of you.

And last but not least during the middle ages, people signed legal contracts by making an “X” on the document and then kissing it to pledge their honor. That’s how XX became shorthand for a kiss. Thank you Tamar Schreibman the author of Kissing: The Complete Guide.

So, while I’m piecing my first date for this experiment together, I’ll be putting in a little more face time with my man.